Engagements these days happen in all sorts of unique, personal ways. Some babes plan the big moment or pick out the ring with their boo, some are surprised. Either way, the months between Thanksgiving and Valentines Day are peak “Will you marry me?” time, so much so that this period has been dubbed engagement season. It’s a thing.
You may even be among the number of brides-to-be who say yes to a proposal this engagement season — whether you know for sure it’s coming or you’ve been getting that vibe (many brides will tell you they had a sneaking suspicion before the big moment actually happened). As long as you don’t set you and your S.O. up for failure with unrealistic expectations, prepping a little for the question doesn’t hurt. If you’re thinking your beloved might pop the question soon, we’ve put together a checklist to make sure you’re set and ready to say yes. Just remember: whether it happens or not, what’s most important is that you found the person you want to be with forever. Which leads us to the first item on the list:
1. Be sure you actually want to marry this person — and not just get married. Once you reach a certain age, it can start to feel like everyone you know is getting engaged. Particularly for women, the pressure to get “the ring” and all the fun attention that comes with being a bride can get inside your head. So ask yourself: Do I want a wedding? Or do I want a marriage? If the answer isn’t the latter, take some time to reassess.
2. Get a manicure. OK, this may sound like you’re jumping the gun but hear us out. Best case scenario: your hands will look pretty and ring picture-ready. Worst case scenario: your hands will look pretty and you’ve treated yourself to a little well-deserved pampering. Either way, you come out a winner.
3. Have a few go-to outfits on hand. If you do end up saying yes to forever, you’re most likely going to want to take some pictures after — or your honey may actually have a photographer hidden somewhere to capture the actual moment. Choose a camera-ready outfit or two that you feel good (and comfortable) in to have handy. Think it’s gonna happen at a fancy restaurant? Slip into your favorite feminine dress. Is your boo more laid back? Dress for a romantic stroll in a beloved cozy sweater and cool jeans. By maintaining your personal style and vibe, you’ll feel like you – and be able to focus on the magic of the moment. And all of that will come through in photos.
4. Going away? Make sure you’ve got a roomy travel bag. A romantic getaway is one of the top occasions to pop the question. Take a stylish weekender or suitcase with you to make sure you’ve got room for outfit options and any souvenirs (ahem) you might be taking back home with you.
5. Decide who you want to tell first. It’s completely up to you whether you want to shout your engagement from the rooftops – or at least Instagram – or keep it to yourself for a bit. It’s kind of nice to share the moment with your fiancé (eek!) for a little while you guys enjoy the engagement afterglow. You can also choose to call or text just a few of your nearest and dearest so they feel in the loop – your loved ones will feel honored to know first, and then you can take some time before spreading the news web-wide.
6. Take a breath. This is one of the biggest decisions any two people can make. It’s OK to feel elated, overwhelmed, or some combination of the two. Don’t feel pressured to pick up the phone and call a wedding planner as soon as the engagement ring slips on your finger. Relax, take some time to enjoy just being engaged, and when you’re ready, you can get to work Pinning flower arrangements and planning a reception playlist (that is, if you haven’t already).
Did you get engaged this season? Tell us all about it in the comments!
xo
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